My top 3 tips for kicking stress and preventing burn out

Once every few years (sometimes more) things feel really unmanageable. Cortisol runs through my veins and there’s a pit of never ending tummy complaints, headaches, uncontrollable weeping and often days where the desire is to not get out of bed.

I‘m an A type personality who tends to go-go-go until I fall into a heap.

I hear the niggles but ignore the warning signs. Why?

In my 10 year career in human services I have come close to burn out at least twice and I reckon I am on the verge again if I don’t shift things up. Things like self care start to skip, sleep decreases, exercise is minimal, diet goes south and working hours increase. That can only go on for so long before your body says ‘ahoy there’!

1. Know the signs

It’s so important that you know your signs. Each of us have different smoke signals that our body sends out when things are getting a little cray cray.

For me, it generally starts with my mood. I’m tired and irritated and not so pleasant to be around. But let’s face it usually other people are the first to notice rather than ourselves. Then it usually goes to my body in physical signs or symptoms. Often it’s heightened emotions and uncontrollable crying, brittle nails and dull skin… and when things are bad I start to get little cuts in the corners of my mouth.

2. Shift things up

Now we can’t all quit our jobs or spend days in bed but we can make some subtle changes to start bringing some equilibrium back. We need to make sustained changes over time and as much as I love a 3 hour pamper session at the local day spa it’s not sustainable nor does it yield long lasting benefits.

Things like sleep, meditation and self care are proven to be good for our mental health and these are what we should focus on. What’s even better is this is all totally free and you can do half of them from anywhere!

Now I am not perfect… no one is. I occasionally let my self care slip but if it goes on too long our physical and mental health pay the price.

My go-to self care tools are:

  • intuitive daily perfumes from my essential oil collection
  • yoga
  • guided meditations (abraham hicks is the bomb!)
  • epsom salt baths with essential oils
  • dancing (to really loud tunes)
  • journalling
  • session with my foam roller
  • ice blue or aroma touch massages
  • visualizations
  • take a mental health day
  • connecting with nature
  • moving my tooshie
  • cuddles with my son
  • soul chat with my hubby
  • therapy
  • a good sweat session (sauna, run, boxing etc)
  • waking chat with a bestie
  • nourishing warming meals
  • hot cup of cacao / herbal tea
  • reading

3. Ask for help

Often when we are stressed out and nearing burn out we try so hard to look like we are holding it all together. This is partly due to the stories we tell ourselves that we ‘should’ be able to cope and the way society seems to knock down the people who are already down.

With a turning of the tides it is so important we spread the word around things like anxiety, stress and mental to help others to put their hands up. It’s ok to not be ok!

‘This too shall pass’ is a mantra I often repeat and remind friends of when times get tough. Sometimes it helps just knowing that these periods do pass and is critical to being able to move through them.

But sometimes in order to move through them we need help.

Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness and can come in many forms.

It might be a friend coming to help with the kids, cutting back your hours at work temporarily, asking your partner to do some extra things around the house – it might even be paying someone to help prepare meals or a house cleaner.

Asking for help might also involve seeking professional support from a counselor or psychologist. I’ve seen many over the years and as a social worker myself I see a lot of value in talking therapy. Often when things get to the point of feeling like burn out there’s usually more than one cause and it’s important to know what each contributing factor is so you can see the signs in advance in case there’s a ‘next time’.
Let me know below your go-to strategies to help when things get tough 👇🏻

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So Month of Mondays kinda went a little mad…

So today I sent our the first Month of Mondays newsletter to my tribe and things went a little, well, kinda cray cray! It started out with…

“you are probably wondering what the flip ‘Month of Mondays’ is … but this is something I have created with you in mind. This idea has been birthed from a recent call out where I asked what YOU want MORE of… how I can serve YOU better (oh and if you want to have your say its never too late, i’d so love for you to reply to this email and let me know).

Every Monday for the month of August I will be popping into peoples mailboxes with a stack of heart felt love… My aim is for us to get to know one another intimately (kind of like old friends). For me to share with them (you) a little more about me, my challenges, my passions and obviously a little bit about essential oils because, well, I just cant help it. It will be a space I can share with you things I am learning, recipes I am testing and DIY tips to save you $$”. 
 
Then this happened…

“I’m also going to be sharing with you (which makes me kinda nervous) a little about my steps to freedom”.

Eeeeeep!

So – to fill you in… I recently committed (this is a HUGE deal for me) to a 12 month coaching program with my mindset coach. This is not just about my business but about my entire life… we work on mindset around money, relationships, career – you name it!

Now i’ve never been one for ‘goals’, probably because I find it hard to stick to them (hello ego) and in fact the word ‘goal’ itself evokes all kinds of fear based emotions not to mention a tightness in my throat and butterflies in my belly. SO because I am all about getting a little uncomfortable I am going to take you along for the journey. Coaching alone brings me to the edge but sharing it with you scares the shit outta me so why not right? 

In gearing up for this 12 month program I had to sit down and write a VISION (which I did with the husbo) so that every month I can set goals that will itch me closer to my vision.

Now once I had decided to share this and had written it in my mailchimp template I was actually really excited to share this (it certainly wasn’t my plan at the time of drafting the newsletter but I am going with it).

MY VISION – planning for my families future

So the reason I committed to this 12 month program was because 1) I have gained a lot of clarity from past coaching, 2) I have some serious goals I was to kick and 3) I know up levelling and working on my mindset will be an ongoing battle.

To kick off my program I was asked to think about my “vision” for how I want my life to look – how I want to feel, where I want to be, how I am spending my time, who I am surrounded by … this then forms a bit of a picture so that I can have a crystal clear idea of where I want to head and map the path to get there. I will caveat this by saying I am yet to ‘firm’ up my vision so its still a little loose but ill share a snippet with you anyway.

Just a few of my visions:

+ have a thriving business that provides us the financial freedom to work from home and spend more time with our children

+ to move my body lovingly each day and nourish my body with food that makes me feel good (this is a biggie but always seems to fall off the list as not being high enough on the priority but it incredibly important)

being surrounded by women who support one another to rise and attracting like minded business partners to work with so that we can empower as many homes as we can to make the switch to no-tox natural solutions

Now you might think ‘ah aren’t these simple visions/goals’ but for me they are ones that will continue to challenge me to grow.

When I was copying over some of my goals to my newsletter I even contemplated only sharing the ‘easier’ ones but there is NO fun in that – plus sharing these visions creates more accountability and feels scarier so best to do that!

The challenges and learnings along the way. The blocks I uncover and the roadmaps I take. I will share all with you – in hope that you too might learn something along the way.

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To blog or not to blog…

So the decision to write a ‘blog’ brought up tonnes of mean girl thoughts …. you know that little inner critic that often leaves you feeling deflated and so far from the present it isn’t funny? Some of the things she told me were…

  • who would read it?
  • would anyone even WANT to read it?
  • do you have anything of value to say?
  • your not in the right industry and won’t get noticed
  • you’ll get judged
  • people will dislike you
  • you don’t have time
  • etc, etc, etc …

So here I am, writing the damn blog! I have a few things up my sleeve in regards to topics but I plan on writing about all sorts of things around motherhood, parenting, mastering my little (or rather loud) mean girl, choosing self love, cultivating abundance, the moon and its effect on our flow, relationships, yin and yang, natural/organic goodies and all about my love of essential oils.

I am really excited and can’t wait to share more – whatever it is it will be real and honest and raw.

#GIVEAWAY
Now because I am SO grateful and love each and every single person who has taken the time to read this I have a gift for anyone who shares this post on their social media page/s. Make sure you tag me in it so I can see it. The winner will be drawn at random – 8pm AEDST Thursday 30th March 2017.  The lucky winner will be gifted 5ml doTERRA Lemon Essential Oil (perfect for homemade cleaning goodies) and a 10ml roller of Lavender Peace (hello restful night!).

xo TGM